Annie’s Stupid Story

For most of my life I held the negative belief “I am stupid”. There has been plenty of evidence to contradict this belief throughout my life, but nonetheless I believed it for 30 years!

To qualify why I was in reality not stupid, I have owned and managed several successful businesses, including Beyond Belief Personal Development in which I am a partner and am now developing this website and writing a book about our Negative Belief Removal Process.

This is how I got my first STUPID belief: When I was nine years old I was in sewing class at school working on a child’s dress I had been making. I really loved this class, I liked the calm and quite of it, the feeling of achieving something solid  and because I was good at needlework and really liked my teacher, she often gave me encouragement and praise.

The bodice of this small dress consisted of many rows of fairly complicated smocking stitches. I was really enjoying the fine work, but somehow I made a very small mistake, and trying to pick it apart, I cut a minute hole in the fabric. I panicked, I did not know what to do, it had taken me weeks to get to this stage and now I had ruined it!  What should I do? Just sew over the mistake and hope the teacher would not notice, or tell her the truth and see if she could find a solution to the problem.

 I opted for the truth and went to the front of the class to show my teacher the mistake I had made. I will never forget the way she looked at me, with distain in her eyes, and then, in front of the whole class she told me that I was a “Stupid, stupid girl” and that I was clumsy and thatI had totally ruined it all.

I felt devastated, I remember wanting to burst into tears. The feelings of shame, humiliation and rejection were overwhelming. I could not understand why she was making a huge fuss. She made me feel like I had committed an incredibly serious crime for which I would be punished for the rest of my life. This was to come true.

After that school became harder for me. I was always on the alert and scared of making another mistake and being criticised or humiliated for it. I began to feel that something was wrong with me and that everything I did had to be perfect, and, that to avoid humiliation and shame I had to be the best at everything.

Every time I made a mistake, the 'stupid/failure/something wrong with me' tape in my head would start playing. Every time I wanted to do something new, this tape would start playing and I would either force myself to do it, or give up, beaten before I started.

Owning this belief has affected my whole life, I have had great jobs, but in every one I’ve had to try harder and work longer than most to prove that I am not stupid. I’ve owned several successful businesses, but have somehow never become as successful as I knew I could be. I was always scared of failing if I got too successful because something inside of me told me I would ruin it all, that I was not intelligent enough to make it compared to the people I deemed were very successful .  

I knew logically that I was smart, creative and capable, I knew that I was intelligent and thoughtful but my brain constantly played a never ending tape telling me that I was stupid,  and no amount of telling myself that I was smart or intelligent took away the ‘feeling’ of feeling stupid, humiliated and a failure.  

It is said ‘that which we resist persists', and who wants to admit they have a negative belief called ‘I AM STUPID’?  Surely, only a small child or a stupid person would actually admit that wouldn’t they?

When you have stupid beliefs, a lot of your friends, your family, your siblings will soon let you know how stupid you really are, making you feel more stupid, and more of a failure. You will find yourself feeling more stupid daily, when you go to do something you really want to do, your subconscious will unlock the memories of the failures you’ve had thus far and your conscious mind will tell you “I can’t do this, I am not smart enough, I would never get this job, I am just too stupid”.

I hope, if you believe that you are stupid, you can get rid of the resistance you might have to admitting it and eliminate these beliefs immediately, and get on with all the things you know - but constantly doubt - that you’re great at.

Getting rid of the stupid beliefs I ‘believed to be true’ was fantastic, I now know the truth;  I am intelligent and the page you are reading now,  contained in this website, that I am also writing, only goes to prove how intelligent and creative I am.

Go to university, write a book, build a website, start a business, become a Chief Executive or an MD or an astronaut. Yes, you can do these things if you get rid of your stupid and failure beliefs.  We absolutely guarantee it.